So, I finally had a few dates with women from OK Cupid. Yay me! However, I seemed to have developed some symptoms that may or may not be from an STD. I practiced safe sex, but things can still go wrong.
In any event, I told all the women I’ve been with that I was going to be tested and that certain tests might not show a positive result at this early stage, so I advised them all to get tested just to be sure. One of the women does not currently have a car and had to ask her mother to take her for the testing. Her mother asked her questions, of course, and she answered them. Now, I’ve not met this mother, but I have seen her from a distance and she me, but I digress.
So, the woman told her mother that her partner had told her that he suspected he might have something and that she should get tested just to be safe. Her mother said, “Whoever told you this is a real gentleman because most guys would not even mention it.”
So, even when possibly spreading STDs, mothers still like me.
Cheers, dude. Thanks for communicating and keeping calm.
So I texted the person I actually thought gave me HSV. He didn’t reply. I left it alone. Then about a week and a half later I finally get a text from him. “After I got your text I was really worried so I went and got tested and I’m clean. Thank god and good luck with that.”
This text pissed me off. The first time I’ve been pissed off about all of this. “I’m clean…” I wrote back and said “and I’m what? Fucking dirty?”
I said a lot in my response actually and decided to weave in some education since he clearly lacks it.
"Thank god"…. Why? Because it’s so horrible?
"Good luck with that." Ah, the dismissal.
So after being what I think is the right amount of pissed off for the right amount of time, I began to feel bad. Now, not for what I said necessarily. A little, but not because I said them.
I notice many of us here in the Herpblr community can be quick to be offended by these remarks.
But weren’t probably the majority of us like this to some degree before our diagnosis? I mean I never made fun of anyone, I will say that.
But did I really have a right to be so upset that he said “Thank God”? Wouldn’t anyone feel relief in that instance and breathe a sigh of relief?
Yes, now the term “I’m clean” in regards to being free of STDs makes me cringe. I’m not a dirty person and herpes has nothing to do with personal hygiene. I’m clean too. But this is the term society has put forth when someone is STD free. Just like the rest of the stigma driven comments.
I’ve endeavored not to take these comments so personally. I’m going to make an effort to point them out for what they are and educate the person.
Agreed. I made some gosh-I-would-never-date-someone-wih-herpes comments in college, and a friend shut me down. She completely dismissed my opinion with information about how common it is, and how if we all knew that, we wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. She didn’t change my mind in that moment, but then I was diagnosed with HSV, and I became the person shutting down other people’s comments. And now I have to remember, I was that person. Maybe I didn’t make herpes jokes, but I thought they were fair game, because I made horrible assumptions about people with STDs. Never thought a thing of them. Until it happens to you, or someone you care about brings it to your attention, you’re just not going to be sensitive to it.
Thank you herpblr. I mean it.
I’m needing some help from the herpes community! I’ve newly diagnosed and having a problem. I can’t pee! Sort of. I’m going just a little at a time and it’s taking forever to finish! Does anyone else have this problem? Is there anything from a drug store I can buy or something at home I can use to help this? I can’t spend all day in the bathroom! I can’t get ahold of my doctors office but I also can’t afford to keep going to the doctor. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Drink more water, not less. Are you taking anti-virals? They can super duper for serious dehydrate you. DRINK ALL THE WATER. Other suggestions? I’m pretty sure I’ve seen people talk about this before, and there was some sort of medication to take, but I don’t remember what it was.
One month ago today the doctor called me and let me know “Yes, you have genital herpes.”
I actually had to ask what type. Type 2.
The past month, there have actually been moments I’ve forgotten about the glitter entirely. Almost entire days have passed.
I think about it most when I start talking to someone new, when disclosure is on the horizon, when someone makes an ill educated joke.
What I’ve learned is that it’s really not so bad. It’s new to me, so I’m still working through the signs. At the moment, I still hesitate at every little itch and irritation. I know this paranoia will subside after a while.
I’ve had some great post diagnosis sex, no commitment. I’m doing the online dating thing, and disclosed early to each and that’s going well. Lining up some dates, no one has said it’s a deal breaker. I’ve faced zero rejections, although I’m under no illusion this will last. I know it may happen.
I’ve been down lately, and suffering some very serious writer’s block. But this has nothing to do with the glitter. Not a damn thing in fact.
Life is still worth living.
I am still worth loving. I know someone will come along and love every single little thing about me.
It’s ok. I’m patient.
there’s a website called avoidhumans.com that can let you look up local public places that aren’t crowded.
just reposting for any of my followers who haven’t seen this! i love you all
Emma Watson explains what feminism is all about at a United Nations event.
I WAS NOT EXPECTING THAT
MY FAN WORLDS ARE COLLIDING.
I have a POT who has a lipstick fetish. Whenever I’m with him, I have to wear lipstick 24/7. Constantly reapplying my lipstick every time I kissed him, ate/drank anything, etc eventually became annoying. So I looked online for a tutorial on how to keep lipstick on all day without the color bleeding, fading, or getting on your teeth - and this is what I found. I tried it out the next time I saw him, and my lipstick stayed on all day - through several drinks, two meals, and quite a few kisses. So for all you SBs out there struggling with short-lasting lipstick, look no further. I hope this info helps you all as much as it helped me. :)
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Eat THAT, hormone-snipers!